I have gone through a stressful situation
caused by losing focus on my PhD thesis and paperwork writing. I easily got
made, not trusting loved ones and becoming so aggressive! Well it can be good sometimes,
but I found myself in a big problem when I started to get easily bored, slept
during the day and eat a lot. I know then, I am in a very stressful condition.
There are two solutions : First, surrender my PhD journey and be a full-time
baby sitter or second, I treat my inner being so that I can improve my
performance or at least become psychologically and physiologically fit!
I watched two videos on lectures by Brendon
Buchard and I find it very inspiring. So, I have made an analysis on how these
framework would work for me to perform each day. The first question that I have
to ask myself is;
"What
is my level of PRESENCE, right now?"
I have to ask this question everyday so
that I can measure how much I can ensure my presence towards my PhD work, my
kids, my husband and people who matters. I may have personal issues with my
husband but according to BB, while we are alive, we must ask these questions: “Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?”
So, I have made a resolution that, no matter how difficult my life could be,
just live it up, love people around me and believe in myself that I matter to
these people, I matter to the PhD work and I matter to those people around me.
The second question I have to ask is;
“Am
I living MY TRUTH?”
I have made an essay about this in my
previous post about what I want in life and being myself along the way.
Sometimes, when I could not face certain challenges, it seems that I failed to
understand what I want in life and what matters to my personal wellbeing. BB
asks us to write down three words that define me as a person and three words on
how I interact with other people, EVERYDAY. Like today, these are the words:
Three words that define me as a person: 1)
Optimists 2) Recharged 3) Forgiving
Three words on how I interact with other
people: 1) Strict 2) Clear 3) Calm
BB gave the example of those three words
where in the first category, he chose to be 1) present 2) enthusiastic and
bold. While in the social aspect, the three words for him are; 1) caring 2)
inspiring and 3) engage which I find them so POWERFUL to ignite positivity in anyone.
The third one is physiological aspect where
the question to be asked is;
“Am
I rested and hydrated?”
It is generally understood that all of us
must take care of our health and diet and how we have to take a rest. I myself
hardly disciplined myself to this even though I am aware of how hot current
climate might be and I have to do a lot of routine. The body need to be
rejuvenated before it continues to serve the best each day. 6-7 litres of water
are advised and 7-8 hours of sleep is necessary.
Fourthly,
PRODUCTIVITY.
“What
must I accomplish today for me to move forward?” or “How
can I serve greatly?”
There are two aspects of life that matter
most; my family and my career (PhD journey). I serve my family while doing my
job as student. Serving and learning are two great things that a man can do and
I refuse to blame myself if I am psychologically instable sometimes. I have to
forgive myself and keep on moving.
Fifthly, PERSUATION. The question is,
“Am
I demonstrating a BOLD ENTHUSIASM?”
Yeah, difficult because I know I am not
bold enough in my performance. That is one of the reason, the progress of my
study is turning sour and not meeting the required expectation.
Sixthly and the most important aspect is
PURPOSE. If there is no clear purpose in everyday life, I may not perform well.
I have to understand the meaning of life and’
“How
can I serve greatly?”( To the
people I loved and how I matter to them, and to the PhD work I am talking about).
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